Mature adults re-entering the dating scene may find the scene exciting, but they may also find it frustrating as they try to navigate dating etiquette that frequently evolves. A vibrant dating and sex life is entirely possible after age 60 and beyond.
When it comes to dating, age is just one among many factors to consider as you seek your match. We bring all of our prior life experience to any relationship we enter, so how much does it matter that one person's history is years or decades longer than the other's? Here, two experts weigh in on the benefits of dating an older man, as well as the potential drawbacks.
After all, for most of our lives, men were simple creatures. Now, as we reach our 50s and 60s, the situation is somewhat more complicated.
To get a view into the male mind after 60, I sat down with dating coach Lisa Copeland for a quick chat. Lisa is a fabulous woman, with a passion for helping women to find quality men. If you have ever noticed that older men are unlikely to make eye contact with you or have felt completely ignored at a dance or party, Lisa thinks she knows why.
In our interview, I asked Lisa this question directly, and she gave me a simple answer. Single men in their 60s are looking for a woman who is feminine and is willing to help them feel like a man. Many women, including myself, spent most of their lives competing with men — at work, in social situations, and even at home.
According to Lisa, single men over 60 want women who are in touch with their feminine side.
They want encouragement, not criticism. They need confirmation, not competition.
Dating an older man in your 20s and 30s is much different than dating one in your 40s, 50s, and 60s.
Lisa and I also discussed the perception that men only want to date younger women. Lisa mentioned that this is often the case, but not for the reasons that many of us assume. Men are not always looking for a younger body to cuddle up next to.
Lisa argues that, if we can connect with our feminine side, we can find a quality man, regardless of who we are competing with. Lisa is a straight shooter.
You may not agree with her on every point. Or, you may decide that she is right, but that finding a partner is just not worth the trouble. But I promise you that her opinions come from interactions with hundreds of older women just like you.
How could your desire to be a superwoman be impacting your dating life?
When men feel manly, they feel the need to keep the woman in their life safe and protected. They like you to see them as your hero.
Yes, we are independent women and can do everything for ourselves. But men want to feel needed and like to help when they can. Why not let him do it, even if you know you can?
Men want to help, to fix, to feel needed. There is a way to ask a man to help you.
Women tend to take better care of their youthful appearance by dying their hair and wearing makeup. Men, on the other hand, mostly just accept the grey hair and expect us to accept it as well. Men and women have evolved over the years to become more equal, but there still is that need to nourish and protect.
An alpha man will be more proactive to keep you safe. You can easily lean into him when you need to and know that he will do everything in his power to keep you protected. Do you wonder where you can meet men your age? Read our article that lets you in on a few tips and tricks about where to meet older men.
Pros to dating an older man
Do you think that the feminist movement disrupted our ability to express our feminine side? Are you dating after 60? What has your experience been? Please watch the video and add your thoughts in the comments section below.
An older man who's worthy of your time knows what he wants in a relationship.
Tags Interviews Senior Dating Advice. Margaret Manning is the founder of Sixty and Me. She is an entrepreneur, author and speaker. Margaret is passionate about building dynamic and engaged communities that improve lives and change perceptions. Margaret can be contacted at margaret sixtyandme. We are community supported and may earn a commission when you buy through links on our site.
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