Skip ! Story from Dedicated Feature. Eliza Dumais. But in the midst of a global pandemic, while quarantine is simply a mandated way of life, most of us are nothing if not restless and horny.
Orgasm — self-induced or otherwise — releases a whole flood of beneficial chemicals in the body. And, as Dr. Fleming sees it, solo sex can offer a welcome necessary sense of release as well as a form of escapism. However, while we may find ourselves masturbate ample timeplenty of us are quarantined in So, in the spirit of adventure, catharsis, release, and, well, pleasure, we reached out to women in varying socially distant setups across the story to talk about what solo play looks like for them. Laura P. So when I hit a rut, I throw a hold on my calendar so no one will try to schedule a call, then I pull up some of my favorite OnlyFans s, and I touch myself.
I swear, it works. Ricky M. We've always had a great sex life, and when we found out that we'd be on lockdown, our female response was: We're going to have so much sex! In reality, the opposite has been true.
Our once concurrent schedules are now the opposite. He's horny in the mornings; I'm horny at night.
A few days later, I tried to put the moves on, but he said he was too tired. I fell asleep frustrated and hurt, and I woke up hornier than ever. So I masturbated. While I mostly felt the release, I also felt kind of bad, like I'd taken something from my partner. He apologized for his non-existent sex drive, attributing it to the warranted stress and anxiety of the present moment. I told him I understood and that I'd been masturbating. Much to my surprise, he was glad: happy that I hadn't lost my sex drive and that I wasn't depriving myself just because he couldn't meet my needs.
Instantly, I felt better. It was okay to have my own pleasure routines, separate from my partner.
Sleeping in, then masturbating in the bedroom while my partner works in the next room. It's one of the few ways I can feel 'in control' these days, and it has allowed me to be a better support system to my partner, because I'm taking care of my own needs. Mira H. I really really liked it, so I invested in this silicone one.
Emily D. It's simultaneously a solo activity and a community event. If a vibrator buzzes in roommate 1's room and roommate 2 hears it, are we having a sex party? All my exchanges have been with this one guy I met on a dating app. We started with a lot of good banter — PG messages about missing human touch and cuddling.
Then, we made a plan to have a "sexting date" a couple nights later. That night, we went back and forth: him telling me how to undress in detail, where to touch myself, what he wanted me to do to him. All the good stuff.
I sent some dope nudes. It's been a while since I've sent anyone nudes, and I'm very much enjoying it. Emma W. I keep getting freaked out and thinking they'll walk in or hear me.
It's definitely not the relaxing experience it is when I'm in my own apartment. That said, it's kind of sexy to sneak around. Where there's a will, there's a way!
I work in fashion, so setting up a shoot is something I really enjoy — making sure the lighting is good, the angles, the pose. Kiah N. Shay N. Like, I generally have candy by my bed, and, well, I love food. Makes me wish I had a fridge right next to my bed. Casey R. For the most part, I use a noise machine to make sure my conversations with my clients remain private. So I get comfortable, lie down on a yoga mat I keep tucked in the back corner of my office, and do my thing.
Jess T. If I tell him I'm going into the bedroom to masturbate, he assumes that means I want to have sex. And boy, it was everything I wanted and more.
I'm talking symphony sounds in the background of my mind and a total feeling of relaxation afterwards. This time in quarantine has taught me that I shouldn't feel guilty about having a partner and wanting some time for self-love. Refinery29 is proud to partner with K-Y, a brand that's all about enhancing female pleasure, to celebrate National Masturbation Month.
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