Sometimes I struggle to understand what is going on in the minds of the male species.
No matter the situation, it ' s always awkward and uncomfortable to explain that you ' re just not interested, but it ' s particularly nerve-racking when you ' ve already led someone to believe there ' s a romantic future for you two. You may scoff at the idea of leading someone on, proudly declaring that you should just be honest with how you feel, but that ' s much easier said than done.
The guy at the bar who thought he read a al and sent a drink your way.
The dude who took you out on a date or two and hoped it was definitely going somewhere. The longtime friend who all of a sudden wanted to be more than that. Before we know it, accusations of leading someone on are being tossed around.
For a guy, this is one of the most frustrating things that can happen to us in romance—and, unfortunately, it happens a lot.
Before I continue, let me say that I am not accusing women of asking for unwanted attention. Nobody should be accusing anyone of such things without serious evidence of wrongdoing. You went out on a date, maybe more than one date.
Maybe you've been burned before, or you just don't like confrontation, so you don't want to tell him that you aren't interested. While it's understandable that you don't want to turn a guy down directly, if your verbal cues don't match your more nonverbal clues, the guy might trust what you said. It became clear at a certain point that she was delaying the second date, for some reason.
Until, that is, it became more clear that she trying to avoid me altogether. Believe you me, a man will notice if you touch him.
Of course, not every instance of physical touch carries with it an intention of impending romance, nor do we interpret everything that way. But it definitely can get the wheels turning. Especially certain types of touch. Take hugs for example. Then there are other lingering touches.
You know, like couples do: Hand-holding, arm-linking, cuddling, etc. If you aren't looking for something romantic, it's best to take a hands-off approach—literally speaking, of course. Yeah, if we like a girl, we notice what sort of attention she gives to other guys and how we compare. If she hugs me longer than she hugs Jim or Ted, then I start to wonder why.
I get it, sometimes conversations just flow. So the only thing left to do is to go for it, at least incrementally, and see how she reacts. That being said, if a guy offers to buy a second drink, and she accepts, this is typically a more sure .
It was nice talking to you. Accepting drinks does not mean a woman owes a man anything! It's just that such actions, both giving and receiving, take on symbolic meaning for most single men. I get it, navigating the dating world is tricky.
Image Credit: Jennifer Trahan. The difference between being friendly and flirting can be pretty subtle sometimes.
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