This guide has been updated for It is meant to be a definitive guide on giving a sensual massage so you have all the tools you need to give her a night she will remember forever. Here we go, enjoy.
If you want to give a woman the night of her life and turn her into a blissed-out puddle of mush that will be talking to her friends about you for weeks afterwardthen look no further than the sensual massage.
It's always good to pre-heat the oven before you bake your goods! Which literally means, before you jump into the sack with a woman, you need to put in some hard work! But that doesn't mean you don't reap the benefits of your own hard work! I am sure, she will repay you back in kind and how, after you ace the most powerful tool of foreplay- a sensual massage just for her. Everyone likes receiving a massage but the added benefits of a sensual massage are different.
Apart from relaxing and calming your nerves, it also heightens the pleasure factor, turning your woman on, till she can't take it anymore! Whether it's a special anniversary date or just another Tuesday, you can spoil her silly, by using just your hands and become the best at giving sensual massages! Women love and respect a man who respects their body and if you know what you're doing to her body, you're almost there.
Besides a massage also helps sort any emotional pain and anxiety. So if you're helping her rid that, then there's a one up for you. So, I suggest you get right to it today, when you see her, and make it one of the best evenings you've given her in a while!
2) use erotic oils or lotions.
Just read on and you'll get the gist of it. Lighting is important because it helps build the mood. You can't just give a massage with full blown fluorescent lights. I mean you can, but it won't garner the same effect it usually does, through some dim lighting. If you can dim the lights in the room that would be perfect.
Want to encourage even more depth in your relationship?
And if you can find some scented candles along the way and light them, she'd love that. It's the perfect way to initiate anything sensual or sexual. While initiating a massage, it's really not the right time to play heavy or punk metal or even reggae! Play something that gets her in the mood.
Usually soft instrumental music should do the trick umm, not elevator music. Try something on the lines of Bonobo or Portishead or if you want something more rooted, then maybe try some Buddha Bar? You really don't want the room to smell of dirty 'ol socks or of chicken curry.
Scented candles is one option. You can place them all around and light them up, when you both are in the room.
You can also use a diffuser and burn some camphor or essential oils in it, for the room to smell pleasant. Apart from scented candles, if you're really serious about giving her a good massage, then don't be a cheap boy and invest in some essential oils for the massage.
Yes, you can give her a massage out of basic baby oil or any other massage oil but essential oils help relax the body further and the aroma relaxes and calms the senses. If you like you can infuse the essential oils with coconut oil.
How to give a sensual massage: the essential ingredients
It's the best combination. It's like turning on the geyser, before heading for a shower if it isn't instant, that is! You have to wait at least five minutes before you jump into the shower! Her body needs to be charged too. So start with her neck, upper-back, arms and mid-back and then start exploring the other parts, slowly! Make sure your hands are warm though.
You don't want to be massaging her with cold hands. Take some oil in your hands, before you start massaging and rub them together, so your hands warm up considerably. If you don't have much experience in giving massages, this is an easy way to massage someone. It's basically and literally the rule of thumb! You use your thumb to put pressure on the body while pressing, kneading and moving your thumbs in a circular motion.
Let the pressure be gentle though; you don't want to hurt her. You can apply this technique all over her body. Have you ever kneaded dough? I bet you haven't but maybe you can see some videos on how dough is kneaded and maybe apply the same hand movements on her body!
The technique is usually used for a deeper tissue massage and it's good for more meaty parts of the body, like the butt and the thighs.
You can use your palms for this massage and work your way from top to bottom. This technique is used right before you go into a deeper massage like shiatsu and basically it's quite literal in nature.
You apply pressure by pressing your palms flat onto the area, in a circular motion. This is really good for the lower and upper back. This is another exotic massage technique which involves you and your partner to both be naked and covered in oil.
1) set the mood.
This is a contact based massage technique where you need to rub your body against her body, massaging it, while you two are covered in oil. It's an excellent massage technique to connect with your partner. You can find many Nuru massage videos online to help you understand the basics.
As the name suggests, this is massaging her privates. Mostly clitoral stimulation. This should be the last area you should focus on, as this will spring her into action right away, if you do it right! After you massage her body, with whatever technique you chose to, make her lie down on her back, comfortably, and maybe go through the obvious erogenous zones again like her chest, breast, nipples and buttocks before you hit the spot.
Glide your hands down her body and gently stroke the outer layer of her vagina the walls of her vagina in an up-down motion. Do not use your tongue! Remember, it's a massage, not an eating out session! Once her arousal knows no bounds, gently start her genital massage. You can use lubrication for the massage but don't use massage oils right on her vagina.
If you're good at it, maybe you won't even need lubrication!
Once she starts secreting natural lubrication, you can initiate clitoral stimulation. Use your index and forefingers to gently rub her clitoris. If she doesn't enjoy the clitoral massage, you can try giving her an internal massage. If you find it hard to locate her clitoris, always ask her.
Female clitoris come in all shapes and sizes so it's okay to get lost sometimes. I am not saying indulge in a massage every other day but maybe a weekly or even a fortnightly massage can do wonders for your relationship. I am sure she will pay you back, with a marvellous massage as well, but the trick is, never to expect one back.
It'll keep you both happy. So, the next time she looks tired and weary, you know what to do! Shop Read. up with us to unlock all features! Updated on Apr 13,IST. By Meera Sarkar. Music Is The Food Of Oh Well, Sex! Some Much Needed Aromatherapy You really don't want the room to smell of dirty 'ol socks or of chicken curry. Massage Techniques: Shiatsu Technique If you don't have much experience in giving massages, this is an easy way to massage someone.
Compression Technique This technique is used right before you go into a deeper massage like shiatsu and basically it's quite literal in nature. Nuru Massage Technique This is another exotic massage technique which involves you and your partner to both be naked and covered in oil. Genitalia Massage Technique As the name suggests, this is massaging her privates.