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On the day I married my wife, Ashley, I must have been asked over 50 times whether I was nervous. The barrage of questions from family and friends surprised me, because I had no reservations about giving Ashley my heart.

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In most cases, the goal of a relationship is to find love with another person and to maintain that love for as long as we can. When we find the individual who we believe to be "the one," the next step to take is to propose to them, marry them, and then live happily ever after. After all, the perfect relationship is one where there is only a happily ever after and there are no conflict or sadness, right? Unfortunately, these picture-perfect relationships don't exist and relationships are hard work that requires your constant care and attention.

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Chances are that you or someone that you love is in a dating relationship and the idea of marriage is getting stronger. If this is the case, then I would like to present to you the idea of Pre-Engagement Counseling.

Let me start with a brief illustration. Suppose you had a precious sum of money that you wanted to invest for retirement.

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You tell your financial advisor that you have your heart set on one particular fund. What would you do? Though this may be an imperfect analogy, the spirit of this scenario sometimes plays out in my line of work. Every so often, a couple will come to my office and cause me grave concern.

John Gottman. I will address these issues in other posts. Cultural reasons may be the great x-factor in pushing a high risk couple down the aisle. In some cultures, rescheduling or even cancelling a marriage would be near impossible due to the shame they would experience.

With so many factors making it near impossible to break off an engagement, I propose a basic tweak to the whole idea of pre-marital counseling: Do pre-engagement counseling. Yes, do the counseling before buying the ring, before doing the Yak-Hon-Shik, before going house hunting, before sending out Save the Dates, and definitely before going onto Expedia.

I, too, believe that God does work all things together for the good of those who love Him. I believe God will work good things as an at-risk couple postpones marriage and works hard on addressing destructive relational patterns. God will work out good things even if they do not marry, or maybe precisely because they do not marry. But until this shame covering manifests itself, I can make one simple recommendation as a therapist:.

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November 29, Many reasons! Breaking up would be a waste of invested months or years. The sex is great. One or both feel like this is their last chance to get married. They believe things will resolve themselves in marriage.

They have faith that God will work all things together for the good of those who love Him. And then there are the cultural reasons. What would relatives think? Their friendship would be ruined. A Solution With so many factors making it near impossible to break off an engagement, I propose a basic tweak to the whole idea of pre-marital counseling: Do pre-engagement counseling.

It prevents the catastrophe of shame. When the wedding date is already set, sometimes the counseling is treated as a mere formality. However, without the pressure of dates, deposits, and shame, a dating couple can evaluate more honestly the state of their relationship, and make an informed decision about their future together.

But until this shame covering manifests itself, I can make one simple recommendation as a therapist: Pre-engagement counseling. Older Post Our Fear of Failure.

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