Falling in love is easy. To stay and commit you must become a warrior. Others, however, uncover a deeper sense of love and find romance through the most challenging times.
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Others, determined to make the relationship work, hold on to the bitter end, hoping that their continued efforts will eventually succeed. Many of these frustrated relationship seekers come into therapy to try to understand what they might be doing wrong. And they're aware that some couples face the same odds, yet stay together.
You're naturally more excited about being with someone when things are shiny and new. But when the honeymoon period fades and you've settled into a more comfortable state, that's where the challenge arises. How can you stay deeply in love with someone for so long?
According to experts, it's definitely doable. That means they're willing to work through the hardships, the boredom, and whatever else comes their way in order to create a relationship that's long-lasting.
It may not always be perfect and it may not come easily, but those couples know that. According to Ponaman, couples who manage to stay deeply in love for a long time do certain things more often than those who don't.
For instance, they're good at taking care of themselves as well as their partner. They also know how to set healthy boundaries for each other and the people in their lives. But that's not all.
So here are some things couples who stay deeply in love do more often than couples whose feelings eventually fade, according to experts. That's a major problem that affects many of our relationships, regardless of whether it's romantic or not.
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The reality is, it's hard to truly connect with your partner when you're distracted during couple's time. That's why Reardon says couples who manage to stay deeply in love are fully present when they're alone together. Relationships typically change over time, and so can your feelings. As Ponaman says, couples who stay deeply in love know to keep their expectations in check.
6. always respond to your partner's urgency.
Acknowledging the fact that there's something off allows you to openly communicate your feelings so you can work together as a couple to turn it around. Couples who manage to stay deeply in love know that the grass isn't always greener. They're happy with the ones they have and actively work together to remember why they chose each other in the first place.
They're appreciative of their partner and show it. But, this too shall pass. Over time it's very easy to fall into a comfortable routine with your partner. But as we all know, that can lead to stagnation.
If you do these 7 things with your partner, you’re more likely to stay deeply in love
That's why Stella Harriscertified intimacy educator and author of Tongue Tied, tells Bustle that couples who stay deeply in love know when it's time to get spontaneous. Couples that stay deeply in love know when to spend time apart.
Relationships don't always have to be super serious. They tell jokes, tease each other, and get the inside scoop on each others lives. They like staying "in the know" and connected.
Couples who manage to stay deeply in love keep working on the relationship especially when things are going well, psychotherapist and relationship expert, Laura F. Dabney, MDtells Bustle. They don't take the relationship for granted.
No matter how in love they are with each other, they know things can change and will find ways to keep each other interested. As Ricciardi says, you should always be trying to make your partner feel special.
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Working on the relationship each day doesn't even have to be a big deal. Being a kind, respectful, and thoughtful partner shouldn't be too difficult.
Consistency and reliability are also key. Relationships are tough to maintain long-term.
If you get too comfortable and allow things to slip, it can have consequences. But if you make the conscious effort to nurture your relationship and stay connected to your partner, you two can stay deeply in love for many years to come. By Kristine Fellizar.